Now, I understand how you would want to use a more flattering picture of yourself for your online profile, but I don't understand why you would choose one that really looks nothing like you. What do you expect to happen? "Oh, hey, I know! I'll post a really good picture of myself from five years ago taken at an angle that happens to make me look hot. Then he'll write to me and ask me out. Then, when we go out, he'll be so dazzled by my personality that he won't even notice I look NOTHING like I do in that picture and that I'm actually not hot at all. Perfect!"
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that only good-looking people should date or post their pictures. That's just stupid. I'm saying that you should not misrepresent yourself. If you're blonde, post a picture of you with blonde hair. If you usually wear glasses, have them on in the picture. If you've put on a few pounds, post a recent photo. Who gives a shit?! That's what you look like. Own it. If you were in a bar, you'd want to catch someone's eye who likes how you actually look. The rules don't change because you're at your computer instead of a bar. I'm just sayin'.
That doesn't just go for your physical appearance either. You should never, EVER lie about the things you enjoy doing just to get a date. You know the girl who is afraid of heights but tells the guy that she loves bungee jumping? Yeah, she's an idiot. That's just a recipe for disaster. My husband, a football coach, knew since the day he met me that I would rather blow a clown than watch a football game on TV. He would probably also rather blow a clown that go to karaoke with me. But it's cool because we were open about all of that from the beginning and we never misrepresented who we are. Who cares if you don't enjoy ALL the same things? I don't even think that's possible.
Anyway, not to get all cheesy and lame, but if you find someone you like, don't compromise who you are so that he or she will like you back. It's a complete waste of time and emotion for everyone involved. I feel like this should be totally obvious logic, but apparently it's not because I hear stories from my frustrated friends about crap like this all the time. It's not that hard, people. Be you. If he or she doesn't like you for you, fuck 'em and move on. Well, don't ACTUALLY fuck 'em. I mean, I guess you could, but you know what I mean. Either way, protect yourself.
This has been a public service announcement.